For a long time, I thought it was an hallucination. But one day, as I stood beside Mom in front of the mirror, she pointed to her own reflection and said, “There she is. That Old Woman! She’s scarey and she follows me every where.”
I was so taken aback that I didn’t know what to say. My Mom no longer recognized her own reflection. I put my arms around her in the only comfort I knew to offer, and told her that I would be sure the old woman never hurt her. She was only trying to make friends with her, I explained instead. Mom was soothed by that for the moment and that became my constant response to Mom’s fear of the old woman who followed her.
Sometimes we only need to accept their fears, though we may never know how they’re really feeling. By late stage Alzheimer’s, my Mom’s eyes seemed fearful and worried most of the time, as though suddenly unsure of herself and the world around her. As the holidays near now, that reminds me of her great discomfort in crowds or large groups. Please keep your loved ones feelings in-mind if planning parties or reunions or large get-togethers. By middle stage Alzheimer’s, the patient is totally guarded and uneasy in large crowds with lots of chatter around them. Keep your loved one in-mind as you plan the holiday festivities!
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